Sleeping Situation

See this girl? She's tired. She can't hide it. Her skin is all red around her eyes, and she rubs them incessantly when she is tired. She has sleep cues that you just can't miss. So, it ought to be easy to get her to sleep... it is easy to get her to sleep at day care. I drop her off, and more than a few times, she is sleepy after nursing, and so I walk her to her crib, lay her down, and she just closes her little eyes, and goes to sleep. WHY can't she do this at home???? I know why. Because she has this mommy wrapped around her little finger. And because I'm tormented by what my beliefs about what to do about sleeping.
Right now, she sleeps with me. I love it. She is a fantastic snuggler, and she nurses throughout the night, keeping my milk supply up, and keeping her "tank" full. BUT - I get no snuggle time with my dearest husband. And I have to spend almost an hour every night getting her down to sleep, before I can slip out of the bed to have a glass of wine and/or conversation over a sink full of dishes or laundry with BJ. Something has got to give.
The best scenario? Lay her down in her crib, she sleeps for at least a couple of hours, and when she wakes, I bring her to bed with us for the remainder of the night. But she doesn't want to lay in her crib at all! For naps during the day, fine - but at night, she is supposed to be velcroed to mommy - that is what she wants - and when I put her in that crib, she knows that if she cries, I will give in and bring her to my bed. ARGH.
I won't let her cry it out. I don't believe in that. I don't think that it is okay to let my daughter cry hysterically in a dark room alone.
I read the No Cry Sleep Solution, loaned to me by my good friend Meghan, and I am going to have to take action. I'm not looking forward to this at all - as it feels as if someone poked me in the heart with a sharp stick when I hear her crying. But, something has to be done. And she will cry, no matter what the book was called. It is going to be hard, and tedious, and will likely wear the whole family out (even Cobey, who looks at me with sad, tired eyes when Jordan really gets going).
This weekend is the weekend. I can do this. If she sleeps in her crib at day care, she can sleep in her crib at home - at least for a few hours. Right??????????